gita jayakumar

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gita jayakumar

My name is Gita, and I am based out of Chennai, India. I offer classes and one on one sessions, both online and offline, in person, particularly working on whole body solutions that cover mental, emotional and spiritual health and well being. I combine diagnostic and therapy tools from energy healing with a range of other modalities to help you achieve sound and sustainable results for your mind and body.

Whether it is an illness or an issue with abundance, coping with stress or care-giving for a loved one, I have tools that can help support your needs from time to time. With tailor-made solutions, one-to-one consultations, group workshops and certification courses, I remain committed to helping create a healed world, one person at a time.


Healing
META-Health
ACE
Lifestyle Prescription
BWRT
EFT
Matrix Reimprinting
Matrix Birth Reimprinting
PEAT
Aspectics
Root Healing
Reiki
Magnified Healing
Bach Flower
Acupressure
Acupuncture
Crystal Therapy
Aromatherapy

Fitness
Fitness
Aerobics
Kickboxing
Yoga
Pilates
Kettlebell Training
Strength Training

focus areas
wholesome health
mind-body alignment
sustainable lifestyles
customized solutions

200

students trained

500

happy clients

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workshops conducted

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talks delivered

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Notes from my desk

Coping with Menstrual Isolation




Do we realize that most of what we go through come from belief systems that have been inculcated in us by our family members, friends, and other people we were in contact with in our early formative years? I had an interesting case where the lady was going through severe symptoms of pre-menstrual syndrome (PMS). 

According to her, her period was “3 days of sheer torture.” On further questioning I came to understand that ever since she got her periods as a young girl, she faced menstrual segregation.
She was made to stay separately and away from her family, eat and drink out of plates and glasses reserved for these days of segregation, stay in separate rooms, not mingle with other members of the household, not see them till they finished their daily prayers and rituals, and couldn’t go out anywhere except to school (and later, college). 

She did not like this practice and every month, a week before the onset of her periods, the dread would begin. She so wanted to be with the other members of her family, partaking in the joys and sorrows like she did every other day, on those three days. But, she was left “in the cold” as she put it. During the winters, she was literally left in the cold with just a mat to lie on and a thin bed sheet - not even a blanket - to cover herself. 

She realised that she got “puffy during those days” – which is a result of the isolation, speaking from a psychosomatic perspective. 

After she got married, the condition prevailed but not to the same extent. She could sleep on a bed and mingle with her family, but she was not allowed into the kitchen or prayer room. 

As years went by and her family turned into a nuclear one, she changed the rules for herself and her daughter but had to revert to old ways as there were frequent visits by her in laws. The story started again! It is really sad that despite growing up we still allow other people to rule our lives. 

Working on her belief system, releasing her emotions, thoughts and getting herself new strategies to cope with this situation, we worked together to set her free of this issue.

What do you carry forward?


We are what our parents are.

Sounds strange? Stick with me, I will explain. Just think back and see how many of your parents’ actions, thoughts and beliefs you are carrying.

When we are born, we are virtually like clean slates. We hear and see the people around us, most part of it being our parents, siblings, extended family, servants, and nannies. We learn from all of them.

When we start moving and communicating, we are handed their thoughts and beliefs which we incorporate and make it our own. So what you heard was wrong to do then, you still apply in your life now, unless circumstances have forced you to or made you change them.

In some cases, a child is not allowed to set his boundaries due to intrusions by those close to him. I’m g going to share an interesting case on this, where a girl was constantly forbidden by her mother to do anything on her own. She could only do what she was allowed to: which meant that she had no friends and had no interaction with anyone lest the she spoke out about the family squabbles.

She had to sit with her mother all day long, while her siblings were free to do what they wanted. This, the child carried into her adult years, where even after marriage, she needed her mother’s nod to do anything at all. When she came to me, her children were at the point in their lives where they were ready to leave home.

What did the mother do? She wanted to remain where she was and hold her children with and to her. That was what she had done (till her mother passed away) all her life, and all this manifested as urinary issues. The problem was resolved when she learnt to set up healthy boundaries and to honour others’  boundaries too.

The joy of getting


“Give without expectation and receive with reckless abandon.”
Colleen Mariotti, Livology: A Global Guide to a Deliberate Life

We have been taught to be conditional from a very young age and that is one of the reasons why we find it easy to give than to receive. We have been told that it is wrong to take something from anybody or that we should give and not receive  or that the other person giving you something must be having an ulterior motive in doing so, so we step back to protect ourselves. 

When we give, we operate from a place of control, sometimes making the receiver powerless based on the situation. The best in this situation is to receive what the other party has to offer, even if it is only a “Thank You.” Because in only giving and not receiving, there will be an energy imbalance. Work on issues where you were told that it is best to give and wrong to receive. 

Just consider this. If everybody only gave and nobody received, what will happen? 

Even receiving helps you clear blocks could be for you or the giver or both. Even if it is a compliment, instead of negating it, just accept it. Who knows what you are going to clear! Most of us have self esteem issues which we can resolve by accepting what comes our way. At the same time, we should be open to receiving negative stuff and brickbats, as well. 

Some of us probably do not want to receive gifts or compliments due to fear of something negative being given. But that again opens us to possibilities of bettering ourselves. By receiving, we do not become inferior to anyone, in fact there is much joy in receiving as in giving.

Here is a case study to prove my point. A client came to me with water retention. It involved a lot of deep questioning, which led to her sharing her story.  When she was a child, she was given a gift by her father’s employee. When he gave her the gift, he had wrapped himself in a blanket and was sneezing and coughing. Nothing wrong with this, right? 

But this little girl and the other students in her class, were told by their teacher not to go near people who were ill. They were made to believe that people who were ill were wrapped in shawls or blankets as they may have had leprosy. They were told that if they went near people with leprosy, they could contract leprosy, too. 

After a few days, this girl fell ill and her mom was angry that she had played with a friend who had the flu and told her that she had “got”  it from her. Her mom warned her, saying that if she went near or spoke to anyone ill, she would fall ill, too. She was not to go near them, not to see them, or visit them. 

The girl became a recluse and got very frightened when she spoke or saw an ill person and applied every other person’s illness to herself. She lived in total isolation, which was self-imposed, and this led to a number of symptoms, of which water retention was one. 

From here, working together on her healing was a very easy journey. Today, she is a happy person with a lot of friends.

Connect

I absolutely love the movies that release each year in time for Christmas: apart from the fun, Christmas spirit that is so infectious, the beauty of the message in each film makes it all the more enjoyable. 

This year, I watched The Grinch, with Benedict Cumberbatch voicing the grumpy green guy. 

The poor green one lived atop Mount Crumpit, inside a cave with only his dog for company. Of course he is grumpy, which means that he pretty much hates everything, especially Christmas. The Whos, who lived down below, were exactly the opposite of The Grinch: happy, pleasant, smiling, and eager to celebrate. 

Of the lot, there’s little Cindy Lou Who, who is so much in love with Christmas. Unlike most other children her age, little Cindy wants for her mother to get a break and have all the help she needs as a Christmas gift, because the poor thing works so hard all year round. So she writes a letter to Santa, and hopes that it will get to him soon enough. 

Meanwhile, the Grinch is busy plotting his plan to do away with Christmas, and on the eve before, sets about town being a reverse-Santa, snatching everything to do with Christmas away from the houses while everyone is busy sleeping. All that goes on until he reaches Cindy Lou Who’s house, where he heals: heals from a past trauma. What a beautiful rendition! 

The poor Grinch has something troubling him that’s leading him to behave as he does. The festivities trigger him and take him to his younger days where he was all alone in an orphanage, while all other families were enjoying the festivities. 

To get over his suffering, the Grinch decides to steal Christmas from the families! Seeing little Cindy Lou Who think about her mother and not herself, he begins to heal, and returns Christmas back to the Whos, and becomes one among the lot of them. The little girl invites him home to dinner, and he attends gladly, only to start a new life together. 

A simple movie with a profound message to stay connected with others, The Grinch is a simple reminder that loneliness kills. We are social beings and need to connect with another. There could be situations where either we isolate ourselves or are isolated by others – and both can lead to a host of health issues, both physical and psychological. Heal yourself, form associations, and stay healthy and be happy.

Life Purpose

Have you ever wondered what the true meaning of life is? Have you found yourself pondering over what the purpose of your life is? 

Some people are lucky enough to find a life purpose, while some move through life without one. Having a life purpose makes you stay focused, gives you clarity, and makes you look forward to life. 

Why does a life purpose matter? 

Most people don’t think about their life purpose. And yet, it is important. To put it simply, your life purpose is something that you do or aspire to do, that is very important and dear to you. Not having a life purpose will affect your relationships, people sense that lack of drive in you and relationships will just fizzle out. Living your life purpose will impact your life hugely on the positive side, there is so much to look forward to that your life shifts gears on a positive note. 

Don’t limit yourself to only one purpose, just do all the things you love. Enjoy the journey into your awesome life. Think about it: life seems different when there is a purpose to it. There is something to look forward to, maybe some challenges to overcome, and life takes on a new meaning. You look forward to attending to your life purpose. You wake up every morning with a sense of hope, excitement, and optimism, and a drive to achieve the goal. 

Once you reach your goal, don’t stop there! Expand your goal, and seek to achieve more. 

Finding your life purpose 

Live your life and set your goals based on what you want and not what others want. If you are busy worrying about what others want you to do, that is when it ceases to be your focal point of living. Find out what your true passion is. Ask yourself what you can do really easily. Think of everything that gave you immense happiness and tune into the now. Do these things give you the same happiness? How will it be if you were to pursue these things now? If it gives you the same joy, pursue it! 

Jack Canfield says, “If you can tune into your purpose and really align with it, setting goals so that your vision is an expression of that purpose, then life flows much more easily.” For some people, their purpose maybe connected to some vocation, while to other people, family responsibilities may be a life purpose. For some, religion or maybe a mixture of all of these things, or something entirely different. 

If you know and follow your life purpose, you will open yourself up to possibilities that you never thought existed before.

EATING AND EMOTIONS


One theory of obesity hypothesizes that overweight people do not distinguish physiological signals of hunger or satiety because of faulty learning.
Emotional eating often leads to eating too much, especially too much of high-calorie, sweet, fatty foods.

The relationship between food and emotions may be imbalanced in individuals with eating disorders, obesity, or depression. It is generally accepted that how we feel can influence what we choose to eat or drink.

Also what we eat can affect our mental functioning. Keep a food diary every day.

It is a combination of eating too much of some foods and not enough of others that is contributing to symptoms such as depression. When under stress, our body increases its production of a number of hormones.

While the brain “instructs” the body to produce and release certain chemicals to deal with stress, there are also physiological factors responsible for change in emotions. Some people respond to stress by selecting food for its chemical effects while others choose foods to meet emotional needs. Emotional eaters eat foods that are high in fat, starch, sugar, and salt. An emotional eater will use food to block out certain emotions or to fill a void in their life.

Exercise is a great way to help counteract negative emotions because it releases endorphins to help improve the mood. Eat regularly and eat a healthy, balanced diet. Get adequate rest. Yoga also emphasizes mindful eating. They learn to rely on their wisdom and intuition to make decisions about eating healthy and other life decisions.

Stress management should be a part of interventions designed to curb the consumption of calorie laden foods. Pure foods, which consist of fresh fruits and vegetables, are said to bring calmness and tranquillity to the mind. Stimulating foods like spices, onions, etc., are said to restless, unsatisfied state of mind and thereby to nervous disorders and emotional outbreaks. Bach Flower Therapy can be used as a self-help tool by anyone to help soothe daily irritability, moodiness and stress of all kinds. Quartz crystals have excellent healing properties. Quartz also has the ability to transform an imbalanced energy field. When you feel stressed, angry or whatever the crystal can balance your energies and revitalize you.
Meditation to deal with negative emotions:
  • Inhale deeply. Simultaneously visualize imbibing whatever positive energies you desire coming to you. Focus on one attribute at a time. Fill your lungs completely.
  • Hold your breath for a few seconds, and as you do so feel these energies filling you completely, every part of your body.
  • Exhale let the duration of your exhalation be longer than that of your inhalation. Feel yourself expelling all your negative energies
In order to stop the unhealthy pattern of binge eating, it is important to start eating for health and nutrition.

Happiness


Let me ask you a question.
What is Happiness?
The first thing that pops into your mind is your answer.
For some, happiness is what you feel when what you want to happen happens. For some others, happiness is the smile on their little child’s face. For still others, happiness is a colour, a person, an event, a day, a memory, a gift, a moment, a story, a relationship, a place- anything.
But truly, do you know what it means to be happy and what it takes to achieve happiness?
Analyse the question and you will see that our basic needs are very limited. Our wants are what are unlimited. Think about it. You want a pizza, but you need food. You want a mansion, but you need a house.
The more wants you have the more problems you will have, for an unfulfilled want is the surest cause of unhappiness. Your happiness is your responsibility; don’t blame others if you are unhappy. It certainly is not enough to tell yourself to be happy. As long as we’re not happy with ourselves, we’re never really going to achieve happiness. The problems start when the weather of a dark passing emotion settles into the oppression of a gloomy emotional climate. Before this happens, it is up to each one of us, to use your own initiative, to put up your umbrellas. It is you who decide how you will respond to external circumstances. Achieving happiness is done through looking within ourselves and finding out what truly brings us joy in our lives. We want to be loved and accepted.
Happiness can be achieved by starting with the following:

  • Do not take anything personally. Brush of insults, but be receptive to constructive criticism.
  • Focus on the present, not the past or the future. Tomorrow will take care of itself.
  •  Laugh as often as possible.
  • Learn to accept that power to be happy is all in your hands.
  • Take some time each day to do something nice for yourself.
  • Having balance between our thoughts, words, and actions is crucial in finding happiness.
  • Maintaining your health is very important to achieve happiness.
  • Identify your talents and find opportunities to use them purposefully you will find happiness in what you do.
  • Practice forgiveness.
  • Express and share grief.
  • Make Somebody Else Happy.
  • Think positive.
  • If people would stop being miserable for 15 minutes by shutting their mind off (meditate and most important stop ruminating) then they would be happy.
  • By choosing to take responsibility for your own happiness you choose to succeed throughout your life.

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