Sunday, 21 July 2013

Love is worth fighting for


 
“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”  Maria Robinson

Loyalty and commitment teach us that we are not to walk away from people we love. Love and relationships require a lot of work. Of all the things that can be stolen from you be it your possessions, your health, your rights the one thing that no one can ever take from you is your freedom who and what you will love. If you truly loved someone, then you would be able to realize that it’s ok if they don’t love you back. Life is too short to spend time with people who take the happiness out of you. If you love someone, tell them, hearts are often broken by words left unspoken. Never force someone to make a space in their life for you, because if they know your worth, they will create one for you. Do not chase people. The right people who belong in your life will come to you, and stay.. When you put giving and receiving love on top of your priority list, you will raise the quality of your life. When people walk away from you let them go remember that your destiny is never tied to anyone who leaves you and no way does it mean that they are bad people, it only means that their part in your life is over.

Friday, 19 July 2013

ATTACHMENT


From our early life, we develop an attachment to our primary caregivers which remains all through our lives. This bonding determines how we relate to other people because it created the foundation for all communications in our relationships.  The 3 different attachment types are:

ANXIOUS: Wants a lot of closeness, worries about rejection, unhappy when not in a relationship, plays games to hold onto your attention, difficulty explaining what’s bothering him and expects you to guess, he is suspicious that you are being unfaithful.
AVOIDANT: Sends mixed signals in the relationship, values his independence greatly, is mistrustful and fears being taken advantage of, he doesn’t make his intentions clear and has difficulty talking about what’s going on between you.
SECURE: Reliable and consistent, makes decisions with you, flexible, communicates well, can compromise during arguments, is not afraid of commitment.

Unconditional love is not the only manifestation of beneficial love but, it is the most powerful. A secure relationship influences the quality of future relationships with other people. Insecurity can be a huge problem in our lives, and it takes shape when an infant’s attachment bond fails to provide the child with sufficient understanding, safety, and mutual accord. Attachment always comes with fear-fear of losing other person, or the acceptance of other person, fear of decrement of feeling in other person for us. Anxious adults have a deep desire for closeness and dependence.

Wednesday, 17 July 2013

SELF ESTEEM

“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself”. Thich Nhat Hanh
The term self-image is used to refer to a person’s mental picture of himself or herself. Self-concept consists of the beliefs one has about oneself. It is similar to self-worth. What we feel about ourselves is not based on what we do alone it is based on our relationships with others and whether we feel worthwhile as people, it is all about how much we feel valued, loved, accepted, and thought well of by other people and how much we value, love, and accept ourselves. Low self-esteem is a negative evaluation of oneself. It could because of abuse, neglect or co-dependency. Those who constantly compare themselves to others, or are highly competitive, may always experience low self esteem. Some people who have suffered loss of any form, divorce, may have self-esteem issues. Low self-esteem can negatively affect virtually every facet of your life. Raising your self esteem is possible, but not easy. If you have high self-esteem, you will generally see yourself in a positive light. If you have low self-esteem it will have an effect on your mental health. It lowers ability to cope with the stresses of life which could place you at a risk of developing mental issues such as eating disorders, depression which are related to your mood and self-belief. To increase your self esteem replace negative thoughts with positive, constructive thoughts, when you hear negative comments in your head, tell yourself to stop, be assertive does not mean you need to be aggressive, stop comparing yourself to other people, acknowledge your positive qualities, act the person you want to be and communicate with others assertively.
“When people believe in themselves they have the first secret of success”. Norman Vincent Peale

Tuesday, 16 July 2013

Don't blame yourself.

It is very important to know how your childhood affects the way you live now, because what you learnt from your family and friends back then, is how you tackle your life now. Most of our emotional pain comes from experiences that happened during our childhood. If you’ve had any experiences as a child where you had to keep your truth quiet, it’s time to let it go,  whereby you will release energy, shame, and subconscious blocks that may be holding you back from living your life to the fullest. Although the subconscious mind grows with our new life experiences its basic nature remains the same way like how our parents moulded it. While you can’t change your past, you can change the way you understand it and move forward in light of that understanding. We reap the traits that our parents sowed as they raised us. They only did what they knew and what they learnt from their parents. Forgive them wholeheartedly for they did only what they knew. Be grateful for what you learnt from them-the good to keep with you and the bad to discard. It is difficult to let go of the negatives, try writing them down and tearing up the paper after you are done with it

“Your children are the greatest gift God will give to you and their souls the heaviest responsibility He will place in your hands. Take time with them; teach them to have faith in God. Be a person in whom they can have faith. When you are old, nothing else you’ve done will have mattered as much.”― Lisa Wingate

Monday, 15 July 2013

EMOTIONAL HUNGER

We don’t always eat to satisfy hunger alone; we also eat to comfort ourselves, for stress relief, or simply to reward ourselves. Emotional hunger is a strong emotional need caused by deprivation in childhood. People may eat for many reasons that have nothing to do with genuine physical hunger. Emotional hunger comes on suddenly; physical hunger occurs gradually. Emotional hunger helps soothe your feelings, help mask negative feelings boredom at least temporarily. But remember Emotional hunger can’t be filled with food though you may feel momentarily satiated.

Some signs of emotional eating are eating when not physically hungry, eating when bored, eating rapidly, eating more than required, crave particular food, eating during times of strong emotions, feel guilty after eating. You can recognize emotional hunger by looking out for these symptoms -emotional hunger is sudden in onset; you are not hungry one minute and the next minute you are starving, emotional hunger does not begin in the stomach, it begins in your mind and mouth, it will make you feel guilty, you normally experience emotional hunger after some negative or unpleasant emotion.

You may overcome emotional eating by learning to accept your feelings even the bad ones. Physical activity does wonders for your emotional well being, and it’s a powerful stress buster. Spend time with positive people which will help relieve  the negative effects of stress. Don’t swallow your emotions for the sake of sparing others from getting upset. If they’ve upset you, express it, don’t bottle it. Give the craving time to pass. Get support. Workout when you’re bored. Ask yourself these questions “What is eating me? What am I hungry for? How can I comfort myself without food?” and try using EFT to eliminate issues.

HIGHER SELF



Your Higher Self is your full potential, it is everything that you are and everything that you are capable of being. Your Higher Self operates at a higher level of understanding than you do,  it is you, your consciousness, in your body. Sometimes you can be alienated from your Higher Self when you see yourself as an inferior being or when there are other beliefs that block you from the truth of who you are. It is not separate from you, it is very much a part of you. In fact it is yourself at the purest level. You can talk to your Higher Self and ask it for direction on your life path, for suggestions and understanding and for what your life purpose is. Your higher self is your ultimate guide.
“Your most important work – that which is the very basis of your accomplishment, achievement and satisfaction from this life experience – is your finding your true sense of self. Once you accept the existence of your Inner Being (i.e., your Higher Self), you may recognize the tremendous reservoir of knowledge and clarity and strength that exists right now within you.” – Abraham-Hicks
To give you a better picture, visualize energy above your head about four feet which is always with you. It is with you when you come into this world and it will be with you when you leave this world. Try listening  to your higher self.  Sometimes it sounds like intuition or sometimes it sounds like a voice of someone warning you.

Saturday, 13 July 2013

Why forgive?


To forgive another person from the heart is an act of liberation. We set that person free from the negative bonds that exist between us. We say, “I no longer hold your offense against you” But there is more. We also free ourselves from the burden of being the “offended one.” As long as we do not forgive those who have wounded us, we carry them with us or, worse, pull them as a heavy load. The great temptation is to cling in anger to our enemies and then define ourselves as being offended and wounded by them. Forgiveness, therefore, liberates not only the other but also ourselves.
Forgiving does not mean forgetting. When we forgive a person, the memory of the wound might stay with us for a long time, even throughout our lives. Sometimes we carry the memory in our bodies as a visible sign. But forgiveness changes the way we remember. It converts the curse into a blessing. When we forgive our parents for their divorce, our children for their lack of attention, our friends for their unfaithfulness in crisis, our doctors for their ill advice, we no longer have to experience ourselves as the victims of events we had no control over.
Forgiveness allows us to claim our own power and not let these events destroy us; it enables them to become events that deepen the wisdom of our hearts. Forgiveness indeed heals memories.
Henri Nouwen

Friday, 12 July 2013

Muscles and Emotions

MUSCLES AND EMOTIONS

There is a relationship between muscles and motions. When an emotion is not expressed properly, it will lodge itself in specific areas which will then lead to muscle soreness.

“We often block trauma with the mind but hold emotions in the body,” Karol Ward.
Emotions tone and program muscles and other connective tissues, they continue doing so for as long as an emotion is present in our system. This most naturally will affect your posture.
Anger moves up the back of the body along the spine, over the top of the head, and out through the eyes and mouth, down the arms and goes through the hands. Note that when you are you instinctively tighten your fist. If you observe yourself closely, the next time you are angry, you will note tightening of your jaw.  Blocking the release of sadness can lead to very tight throat muscles and a chronic, painful ache in the throat. All our negative emotions cause a shortening or increased contraction of our flexor muscles. We try to protect ourselves from having deep uncomfortable feelings by tightening muscles. Layers of tension develop. Blood does not flow well into a contracted muscle.  Healing cannot occur in a state of panic, fear, or anger.  Reduce your level of muscle tension with relaxation techniques such as meditation, yoga, or progressive muscle relaxation. Remember that stress is additive.

The release of these connective tissue restrictions brings about a relief from pain and negative emotions.  This is one of the reasons yoga and tai-chi can be so therapeutic. Be honest about your feelings. Clearing blocked emotions can profoundly impact your physical and emotional health.

HOLDING ONTO BAGGAGE



“Don’t let yesterday use up too much of today.” — Cherokee Indian Proverb
Letting go of “stuff” can be a difficult and challenging obstacle for all of us. Most of us carry around some mental and emotional baggage which might include views and beliefs about others, ourselves that we would do better to let go of.
“All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.” ~Havelock Ellis

Life has its ups and downs however, that does not mean that we have to hold on to it. Many people hold onto to this baggage often without much conscious realization and then wonder why they are so tired, stressed and depressed. Metaphysical baggage needs to be checked. At some point that baggage becomes so unbearably heavy that we just stop moving forward and start living in the past. Taking the risk to let go of the past and truly live in the present moment is the way to true happiness. Learn from your mistakes then wash your hands of it. Focus on positive events and make sure that your brain remembers them as vividly as it does negative ones. Lightening the emotional load you carry with you will allow you to step into a life you are in love with.

Wednesday, 10 July 2013


ALTERNATE THERAPIES TO CONTROL OVEREATING
Dr. Edward Bach was a British physician practicing medicine in London around the turn of the 19th century. He began practicing homeopathy along with his traditional medical practice. His keen desire to cure disease by healing the root cause of illness rather than just treat the symptoms of disease led him to discover the flower essences in 1930.
Bach believed that the causes of all illness lay in the emotional makeup of the person. Remedies were matched emotional symptoms. Remedies that can control overeating are Chestnutbud, Crab Apple, Cherry Plum, Gentian if the individual is depressed and eats to relieve the depression and Gorse if he feels hopeless. In addition to this,  the base cause has to be addressed.
Gem stone that helps control overeating are: Clear Topaz Improves sluggish metabolism  also helps your body detoxify, Citrine Helps you lose weight by improving digestion and supporting elimination of what you no longer need, both physically and emotionally, Poppy Jasper Supports healthy activity levels ,enlivens and energizes your body and Apatite Helps in resolving emotional issues related to food, so that you can gain control over cravings and emotional eating.
Yoga for weight loss: Yoga is a combination of a set of physical and breathing exercises coupled with meditation. Each set of exercises are meant to address certain problems in the body. The body gains weight when the metabolic rate is unable to use the calorie intake and hence the excess is turned into fat deposits in the body. The excess calories expended by exercises or eliminated altogether through dieting. Yoga can increase the rate of metabolism so the body burns more calories than it normally does. As it works on organs, they work at their optimal level, facilitating weight loss.
Pranayama that can be performed to facilitate weight loss are  Bhastrika Pranayama,  Kapalabhati Pranayama, Agnisar Kriya and Ujjayi Pranayama. Some of  the asanas for weight loss are Chakra padasan , Paschimottanasan , Trikonasan , Dhanurasan , Ardha Halasan , Sarvangasan, Halasan.
Accupressure points to control overeating are 










Tuesday, 9 July 2013

EATING AND EMOTIONS


One theory of obesity hypothesizes that overweight people do not distinguish physiological signals of hunger or satiety because of faulty learning. Emotional eating often leads to eating too much, especially too much of high-calorie, sweet, fatty foods. The relationship between food and emotions may be imbalanced in individuals with eating disorders, obesity, or depression. It is generally accepted that how we feel can influence what we choose to eat or drink. Also what we eat can affect our mental functioning. Keep a food diary every day.
It is a combination of eating too much of some foods and not enough of others that is contributing to symptoms such as depression. When under stress, our body increases its production of a number of hormones. While the brain “instructs” the body to produce and release certain chemicals to deal with stress, there are also physiological factors responsible for change in emotions. Some people respond to stress by selecting food for its chemical effects while others choose foods to meet emotional needs. Emotional eaters eat foods that are high in fat, starch, sugar, and salt. An emotional eater will use food to block out certain emotions or to fill a void in their life.
Exercise is a great way to help counteract negative emotions because it releases endorphins to help improve the mood. Eat regularly and eat a healthy, balanced diet. Get adequate rest. Yoga also emphasizes mindful eating. They learn to rely on their wisdom and intuition to make decisions about eating healthy and other life decisions. Stress management should be a part of interventions designed to curb the consumption of calorie laden foods. Pure foods, which consist of fresh fruits and vegetables, are said to bring calmness and tranquillity to the mind. Stimulating foods like spices, onions, etc., are said to restless, unsatisfied state of mind and thereby to nervous disorders and emotional outbreaks. Bach Flower Therapy can be used as a self-help tool by anyone to help soothe daily irritability, moodiness and stress of all kinds. Quartz crystals have excellent healing properties. Quartz also has the ability to transform an imbalanced energy field. When you feel stressed, angry or whatever the crystal can balance your energies and revitalize you.
Meditation to deal with negative emotions:
  • Inhale deeply. Simultaneously visualize imbibing whatever positive energies you desire coming to you. Focus on one attribute at a time. Fill your lungs completely.
  • Hold your breath for a few seconds, and as you do so feel these energies filling you completely, every part of your body.
  • Exhale let the duration of your exhalation be longer than that of your inhalation. Feel yourself expelling all your negative energies
In order to stop the unhealthy pattern of binge eating, it is important to start eating for health and nutrition.

YOUR THOUGHTS AND YOUR BODY


Your body reflects your thoughts. Recognize your emotions and understand why you are having them. Find ways to let go of sadness, stress and anxiety in your life can help you manage your emotional health. Everything begins with your consciousness.  Everything that happens in your life, and everything that happens in your body, begins with something happening in your consciousness.    

Ventilate your feelings for if you bottle them , they get lodged in your body causing. At these times, ask someone outside the situation –for advice and support to help you improve your emotional health.


Live a balanced life. Try not to obsess about the problems that lead to negative feelings. Having a positive outlook can improve your quality of living. Cultivate a hobby, it takes your mind off a number of things. Let go of some things in your life that make you feel stressed and overwhelmed. Make time for things you enjoy and spend more time out enjoying nature, or in the company of children. Have a positive outlook. People with resilience are able to cope with stress in a healthy way..


Relaxation methods, such as meditation, are useful ways to bring your emotions into balance.  Nourish your body by having a regular routine for eating healthy meals, getting enough sleep and exercising to relieve pent-up tension. Avoid overeating and don’t abuse drugs or alcohol. 

Sunday, 7 July 2013

Forgiveness and letting go


Forgiveness is very complex and there is not one of us who does not have someone to forgive .If we have gone through a bitter experience with another, it practically will be next to impossible to forget the incident even though you may have forgiven the person. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting the incident but remembering it sans the bitterness. Once you have forgiven, the emotion attached to that incident is released and thereby you rid yourself of illness which that particular emotion may have caused, since all illness is caused by your thought and emotions. Cry when you are sad-even if you don’t have a shoulder to cry on. Connect to the pain you feel when crying and expend the pent up sorrow inside you. Punch a pillow if you are angry- yell, shout, and shriek alongside the punching. Go through whatever it is that made you angry as you punch. A good workout is a stress buster so is writing. take some paper and just keep writing , don’t reason just write whatever comes to your mind, they can be unrelated could be something from the past or something to do with your future but just keep going till you have nothing more to pen. Tear up the paper/papers burn them up and flush down the ashes. Another technique is to light a candle in the southwest end of your room, keep a bowl of rock salt next to it , sit before the candle and say all that you have to till you run out of anything to say. Flush the rock salt taking care not to spill any. Art is a wonderful channel to let go of negative emotions. Be it drawing painting, playing an instrument or even listening to music –but make sure that you don’t listen to music that further deepens the negative emotion you are going through.

Friday, 5 July 2013

Letting go of negative energy



Energy is exchanged in conversation and in events, and in every interaction between people. There is bound to be contamination in terms of energy. Most of the time, you may find yourself unsure of how to let go of negative energies. The energy, left to itself, will dissipate on its own but sometimes it takes us long after the moment the incident happened to let go of our hold over the same.The first rule is, that you should Never try to push the emotion away. Don’t judge your emotion. It is just there. There are no bad emotions, just emotions. All of us have them, and they are just as valid as the happy emotions. Don’t cling to your emotions and make sure that you avoid going over the incident over and over again. By reworking the incident in your mind, you are invariably giving the situation more power and thus in the process, you will find it difficult to get over it.
The second thing is to remember that the thoughts that you send out come back to you. Our mind receives back the information we send out through our perception system. A mind that sees and feels itself constantly under attack will place physical demands on its body. The body will be constantly working to keep itself “safe”. By sending out feelings of love, peace and tranquillity will be yours.

Thirdly, simply brush it off as an incident that happened to you, no matter what it may be, no matter how big a deal it may be. Simply shrug it off by shrugging your shoulders with the incident in mind. The energy of resentment often sits in our shoulders, and by exercising the movement of shrugging your shoulders up and down several times, you’re helping that energy move. And when it moves, it can be removed. Inhaling deeply while focussing on the issue and exhaling fully through the mouth also helps remove this negativity in you.
 
Fourth, and most importantly, forgive. Forgiveness actually is a releasing process that involves letting go of negative feelings and resentments you’re holding towards other people. When you forgive others, you are actually helping yourself more than them. If you are able to let go of holding on to the negative thoughts and feelings you have about others, you become much lighter and freer with a lot more energy. Bathing in water in which sea salt has been dissolved can also transmute negative energy. There are many techniques like Reiki, Pranic healing, Crystal healing, Colour therapy and plenty more which will help you cleanse yourself off negative energy.

LETTING GO WITH CRYSTALS To prepare your crystal (clear quartz can be used or rose quartz) for healing, cleanse the crystal of any negativity. Soak it in sea salt so that negative energies are removed from the crystal so that you do not transfer residual energies onto yourself or your client. Instruct your crystal to direct the energy towards letting go of whatever you desire. A simple method is writing a thought on a piece of paper then placing a crystal on top to absorb the thought energy. The crystal acts as instructed. You can place the crystal on a person’s photograph to send them an amplified thought or heal them of a problem or to simply let go of their emotions (anger, hatred etc). You can also program your crystal by holding it in your hand then breathing in through your nose, hold the thought in your mind of what you want, then forcefully breathe out into the crystal through your nose. Do this on each side of the crystal to program it. (There are 6 sides to a clear quartz crystal).

Thursday, 4 July 2013

Heal your emotions to Heal your Mind



Healing emotions and mental healing are interlinked. Your thoughts lead to your emotions and vice versa. Healing one brings about healing to the other.
When addressing a health issue, a holistic therapist will explore your mental wellness and emotional health in addition to symptoms of your illness.
The mind, body and spirit are connected to each other. Positive beliefs and emotions can literally create a healing response without any real medical intervention. Negative emotion causes illness.
Anger, fear, unworthiness and other emotions get ‘stuffed’ into the body, over time these limiting emotions weaken the physical body creating stiffness, aches, pain and general discomfort, which eventually can cause more serious conditions . Writing with your less dominant hand helps clearing our repressed emotions. Ask questions by writing a question with your dominant hand and answering the question by writing with your less dominant hand. This can work really well for inner child healing as well where the less dominant hand can be your child.
What you see in others that angers you is a part of yourself that has not yet been healed and loved. Emotional patterns begin in the first place when we are judgmental of others. This time experience the energy of anger or hatred, don’t judge it just experience it. Allow anger or hatred to run into every nook and corner of your body, now enjoy it. Love the feeling that anger or hatred produces. Now begin a conversation with your negative emotion. This helps us locate the core issue underneath the emotion. Strike up a conversation with the emotion. Ask it questions like, “What are you teaching me?” or “Why are you here?” With these answers you are able to make change and you will find yourself peaceful mentally, physically and emotionally.

THE POWER OF LOVE


Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction. ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

The Human relationship is of great importance for your happiness, health and longevity. Physical affection can help the brain, the heart and other body systems. At the centre of how our bodies respond to love and affection is a hormone called oxytocin. Oxytocin lowers the levels of stress hormones in the body, regulates blood pressure, increases tolerance for pain and even helps wounds heal.  It plays an important role in our relationships.  Oxytocin is made in the area of the brain called the hypothalamus
Most people in today’s society become so busy that they don’t take the time to appreciate the gratitude and receive the love from relationships. People, today are so busy that they don’t have time or space for people that matter. They prefer possessions to humans. Loving, and feeling loved, improves our body’s natural disease fighting competence. There is enough proof that joyful relationships seem to produce just the right kind of chemicals and hormones that are needed to keep diseases at bay and also helps fight diseases such as cancer and heart disease. Several studies have proved that happily married individuals live longer than those who are single. You are probably thinking that love is beneficial only to those in an intimate primary relationship. Not true. To reap the benefits of love, you need not have a lover or spouse. The love you feel can be for a friend, a parent, a child, or a sibling. When you love someone and have yet to have them these emotions can be overbearing. Even your very cells react to love. You feel strong, proud and above all have a zest for life.
When you feel sad your cells run away from each other and move very fast. It is as if they don’t like each other. Hence you feel sad and worthless. Love and acceptance can be powerful medications. Our bodies respond to different thoughts and emotions.
MEDITATION:
·         Sit down with your back erect, eyes closed.
·         Do a few rounds of deep breathing, relaxing your body, starting from your toes working up to your head.
·         Be in this relaxed state for a few minutes.
·         Bring your focus on your heart chakra, inhale all the negativities from the chakra, and exhale it out. Continue till you feel that the chakra is cleansed.
·         Now visualise this chakra spinning in a clockwise manner, pink in colour. Note if there are any areas of tension or stress in your body, gently send love and pink energy from your heart chakra to these areas till you are sure that you are free from these negativities.
·         Now visualise the whole body suffused with this pink love energy.
·         Affirm I am love. Be in this state for some time, return the pink light back to the chakra.

·         Relax in this state for some time.

Tuesday, 2 July 2013

EMOTIONS AND THE BODY



There is rarely a moment in our day when we are not feeling an emotion. All of us have suppressed our emotions at one time or another. But your emotions need an outlet. They will come out one way or another, because they are part of who you are. Negative emotions, will remain inside your body-mind-soul and if not dealt with cause diseases. Anger gets stored in your liver, gall bladder and can show up in the eye also. Guilt, grief, shame, regret can get stored large intestine, lungs and is associated with the nose also. Fear, anxiety go to the kidneys, bladder and has connection with the eyes and ears. Absence of happiness, fun and frolic, affects the circulation, thyroid, sex and is connected to tongue. Excesses affect small intestine, heart and has connection to the tongue. 
 
Constant thinking, worrying affects stomach, spleen, pancreas and has connection to the mouth.
Emotions released in a negative way can be painful. When emotions are not expressed, they can be redirected into positive expression through work, play or they can be lodged within the body, blocking the flow of energy and resulting in emotional or physical pain. Unconditional love (of self and others) and happiness serve as master keys contain illness. Forgiveness sets you and the others involved free of our past perceptions. Meditation, yoga, tai-chi, acupuncture, Reiki are all aimed at releasing negativities  allowing positive energy to flow freely.

Monday, 1 July 2013

Letting go with Yoga



Letting go means letting be, not throwing things away. Letting go implies letting things come and go, and opening to the wisdom of simply allowing, which is called nonattachment. If you practice yoga you will nurture equilibrium between body and mind. From yoga develops growth and insight. Yoga instructors encourage students to stay in the present moment and let go of judgment so they can learn to truly listen to the body and inner self. 
Breathing exercises calm the nervous system, help achieve higher states of meditation and oxygenate muscles as they move through yoga pose.When your breathing reacts to an emotion your body also reacts. When preparing for a crux move and you need to let go of negative thoughts take a deep breath and exhale strongly.
A teacher can guide us to look with in, but ultimately have to have the courage to actually go inward. No teacher can do this for us. In most cases going within ourselves is not a very pleasant thing to do. 
Asanas in the traditional sense are for quieting the nervous system. They are designed to facilitate the flow of prana in the body. Asanas are an excellent preparation for pranayama. A large part of the original reason people practiced yoga asana was to prepare the body for sitting still for many hours in silent meditation. They help decrease tension in the muscles and bones so that we can meditate better. Our thoughts ultimately create our emotions which in turn validate our thoughts so we think more of them. None of this has anything to do with what’s actually happening, we need to get some space from ourselves. 
Meditation is about letting go of control. It is a powerful method of stopping all thought activity and drawing your attention above the body – you will be completely relaxed. Meditation isn’t something you actually do or accomplish; it’s the state of non-doing.

Sunday, 30 June 2013

EMOTIONS AND ILLNESS



Repressing emotions can cause physical illness. Our bodies were not meant to hold on to and suppress intense emotion. Unresolved feelings create blockages in the body’s energy system which in turn weakens the immune system, and this can manifest as pain, or other physical symptoms. 95% of all illness has an emotional component. Every time we revisit the memory of a traumatic event from the past, our cellular memory responds and fills our bodies with hormones which affects our immune system. Your cells and your body respond to every thought you think, every emotion you have and every word you speak Energy has to move. If it is blocked due to your emotional disturbances the other parts do not get the energy in the way they should. Nutrient transport, respiration, detoxification, elimination, digestion, assimilation, hormone production and brain function become affected leading to a gradual degeneration in your system. This results in dis-ease. Cancer is found in people who carry deep anger for either themselves or resentment for other people and circumstances that occurred in the past. They carry hatred for a long period of time until it literally starts eating away at the body and manifests as cancer. Imbalance between your rational mind and your emotions will cause digestive disorders. Arthritis is bottled-up hurt. . Excessive or prolonged fear drains the Kidneys. Anger affects the Liver. Sadness affects the Lungs. Excessive anxiety causes spleen energy to stagnate. Your legs, calves and feet store your trauma, resentment, jealousy, and emotional pain of the past and present.
 Being emotionally and mentally healthy doesn’t mean never going experiencing emotional problems. People with good emotional health have an ability to bounce back from adversity, trauma and stress. Don’t let stress and negative emotions build up. Learn to let go. Releasing old emotions will cause shifts in your energy fields and thus free up the energy blockages that you may have. Forgiveness is the master healer. Break the pattern of negative emotions. Release your inflexibility. The more you learn to love yourself, the easier it is to love others. Love is the most powerful energy of healing on earth.  Meditation is an ideal tool to achieve serenity. Thus the mind and the body are clearly connected and what we think affects how we feel and how we feel effects health.  We are blessed today with simple, inexpensive, techniques that can revolutionize our sense of wellness and shift the patterns that trap us in chronic illness.

Saturday, 29 June 2013

Emotions and your Body: How being emotionally Healthy helps!



Emotional changes in one’s life are not limited to mental or psychological consequences, but also have plenty of physical ramifications. When you feel something strongly, your body begins to be involved in your emotional state. 

When your muscles are added to the emotional mix and your feelings you discover that every emotional state has its unique postural balance and shape. A confident person always holds himself high, with a straight back and a face held up. An insecure person or someone who has given up slouches and slumps, and looks down most of the time. Your face can work beautifully as an index to the host of emotions in your mind, and your body follows suit. Angry people tend to have clenched fists. 


A person with a nervous disposition may be fidgety and flighty all the time. A closed, suspecting person may have his hands clasped behind him with a mild hunch. So how do you keep your body fit emotionally? Simple. Be emotionally healthy! Being emotionally healthy also means managing day-to-day issues like stress, making and keeping friendships, changing bad habits. Being emotionally fit is the key to success in all aspects of life. If we do not care for ourselves, frustration, tension, anger, and poor health can develop. Physical fitness exercises help keep our bodies strong. Emotional fitness is about managing feelings. Do not bottle your feelings, but let them out. 


Letting them out does not always mean yelling or shouting or pummelling someone- you could write out your feelings on paper and burn the sheets off, or punch a pillow or a punching bag till you feel a release, or go on a long run until you feel you’ve drained your negative emotion off. Practicing these exercises daily will strengthen your ability to control negative feelings. Physical exercise matters. A combination of proper nutrition with physical exercise will improve your emotional well-being. Deep breathing exercise and meditation help abundantly. Spend a little time each day or each week doing something you enjoy. Be grateful for all you have been given in life. S


ee that you get adequate sleep time every night. Or do take a nap every now and then. Exercise your creativity by singing, writing, drawing, painting, knitting, cooking or anything else that you love. You need not have to be a pro- just follow your passion because these activities are highly therapeutic. Forgive yourself and others. When you forgive, your whole body lets go with a sigh of relief. Have fun and LAUGH. Take time out to watch a comic show or play with kids, or even go back to your childhood, play about and watch cartoons! Music is a sure shot method for you to let go, as much as Dance. Enjoy your emotional well-being, and let it flow to your body, to let you bask in the glory of Physical well-being.

Friday, 28 June 2013

VISUALIZATION




The real healing power resides within oneself, and any method that serves to arouse that inherent power will tend toward the cure. “I am completely healed” is an effective phrase to get the power of your mind working to heal your body. Our mind, specially the subconscious is a miraculous tool. Any disturbance in the mind causes disturbance in the body. If everything in the Universe is made of energy, and it can never be destroyed or created but can be transformed, then it is possible that thoughts can become reality. Your mind is an extremely powerful instrument that can be either a friend or foe. The critical factors that determine how healthy or how sick you are- your attitude, your social networks, and your beliefs.
When you believe something very strongly, you will resonate with that belief, both consciously and unconsciously. Since your unconscious mind interfaces with your body and immune system, the right sorts of beliefs can really activate your body’s healing powers.
Visualization, a form of self-hypnosis, is a tool anyone can use to help foster healing. It is based on the idea that your body and mind are connected. There is no perfect way to do visualization, each one’s experience is uniquely their own.
To enter into visualisation enter into a meditative state by gentle breathing exercise. The following complete the process.
  1.          Focus on relaxing all your muscles (head to toe, toe to head, etc.).
  2.          Imagine yourself in a very peaceful and relaxing environment, totally at peace.
  3.          Bring to mind a scene that soothes and calms you.
  4.         Mentally transport yourself to this scene.
  5.          Relax your body and let go of worrisome thoughts.
  6.       Now scan your body for areas of tension. If you notice an area of tension, breathe into the area and as you breathe out imagine releasing the tension. If the tension persists, tighten the area and hold it for several seconds then let it relax 
  7. Call for your God or guardian angels to heal you. Visualise healing take place for example if it is a pain visualise the healer healing the affected cells and bathing the site of pain with white healing light. You can ask for guidance on something that is concerning you. This guidance may come from within you or from anyone you want to ask. 
  8. Once you are ready, you can come back from this favourite place of yours. Be with yourself for sometime breathing gently, before opening your eyes

Thursday, 27 June 2013

THOUGHT AND ITS EFFECTS


Negative thoughts are caused by ingrained patterns related to our own beliefs: regarding self-esteem, security, money, people, life etc. Positive thoughts and attitudes have been found to contribute to physical health and emotional well-being, whereas negative thinking lead to adverse physical and mental health effects. Disease and health are rooted in thought. Sickly thoughts will express themselves through a sickly body. Stress that’s left unchecked can contribute to health problems such as high blood pressure, heart disease, obesity and diabetes. Optimists have higher levels of disease-fighting cell activity. Any negative emotion that is not fully experienced leaves behind negative remnants. When we think negative, we attract negative emotions and events. Your body responds to your conscious, your subconscious thoughts and to the consciousness of other people.  Positive and happy thoughts build up your body with vitality. When you generate positive thoughts energy begins to circulate easily in your body. When energy is able to circulate easily within your body, it begins to heal and strengthen your organs and all parts of your body.
Traditional Chinese Medicines associates emotional problems to specific organ functions: they are as follows The Liver can be affected by anger or frustration, The Lungs can be affected by sadness, the Heart can be affected by excess excitement, The Spleen and Pancreas can be affected by worry, The Kidneys can be affected by fear or shock.
Positive thinking leads to increased life span, increased immunity level, better psychological and physical well-being, reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease, can cope better during hardships and times of stress. Every problem has a limited life span .They will get resolved given enough time. Relax, engage in a personal hobby, try something new or pamper yourself. Creative visualization helps obstacles turn into opportunities. Relaxation techniques, meditation, and balancing blocked chakras help clear the mind of the negative clutter.

Wednesday, 26 June 2013

Clearing Clutter


A cluttered mind is very bad and depresses and lowers ones energy levels. Clutter prevents the flow of Chi (energy) and needs to be cleared. While everyone is affected by events from their past, some people are affected to the point that it prevents them from moving ahead to the future. The trouble is our minds can get clogged up with negative thoughts from a range of sources.
To begin releasing those bags, start by simply saying to yourself, “I am letting go of all of these old burdens. I am ready and willing to let it go.” You don’t even need to know what the burdens are. When you begin releasing, you will feel lighter. Similarly when emotions come up for you to release, just experience the emotion and let it go. When you work continuously using subconscious mind power techniques, you begin to remove all these old and not supporting data and make a huge clean of your entire mental storehouse.
 You need to start clearing out the old stuff you are holding on to in order to make room for new things to flow into your life. The Water Meditation (seeMeditation Room) can be practised. Never assume or judge others. It’s important to love yourself thoroughly. Be grateful for the things you have. Laughter, yawning, crying, and even singing facilitates the expression of a variety of feelings. These natural exercises cleanse the body, mind and soul so that we can maintain a healthy balance.
Yoga therapy tries to re-establish the inner balance by various means, working from the gross to the subtle.
Bach flowers White Chestnut, Walnut, Vervain help us relax our over-active mind and makes us realise our health and well-being are more important than our ambitions and desires.
Dandelion is the remedy to take when mental tensions are creating tensions in the system.
Aroma oils Chamomile and Lavender help calm the mind. Burning camphor and cloves is believed to absorb all negativity in the surrounding while it enhances the positive.

Tuesday, 25 June 2013

LET GO OF ANGER:

Are you a grumpy chicken by disposition? Or does it take very little for you to fly into a rage? Here's something for you.


Anger is an energy which is your greatest enemy debilitating your health and producing negativity. To Anger is human, we all have a temper, and feel anger. Anger is hard to release. You have to cut the invisible black cord that connects you to the person you’re angry with. Anger begets more anger. All repressed emotion including anger explodes into a rage, either inward or outward. Here are a few tips on how you can get those heavy, burning feelings off your chest:
1. Write them down on a piece of paper, and then tear that paper into tiny pieces and throw them away or burn them.
2. Take responsibility for your anger. This allows you to connect with your anger and begin transforming it into a positive experience.
3. Give yourself permission to rant with a therapist or friend which heals  by diffusing negative energy.
4. Slow deep breathing works for anger. Breathe slowly and deeply. This resets our emotions into a calm pattern and clears our minds.
5. Use reason to stop anger. Anger serves no purpose.
6. When we smile we defuse many negative situations. By smiling we offer goodwill to others and this defuses the situation.
7. If we persistently ignore our anger, eventually we will be successful.
8. Smiling at your enemy or the problem makes half the power disappear at once.
9. Forgive whoever angered you let him go. Understand that in forgiveness, you are allowing yourself to be happy and move on.
10. Meditation, Tai chi and yoga helps.
11. Work off anger at the gym or with a punching bag.
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12. Bach flower remedy Holly is the remedy for anger.
13. The essential oils that help fight anger are ylang-ylang, lavender, marjoram, frankincense, rose, chamomile and sandalwood.
14. The Gyan mudra helps keep anger at bay until you can deal with the underlying cause.
15. Sitali Pranayama curbs anger. This is how you do it Roll your tongue like a straw, draw air in through the protruding tongue and exhale through the nose. If possible (not a must) swallow after each inhalation for a better cooling effect.
You can do the exercise whenever you need to rid yourself of anger.

Monday, 24 June 2013

Happiness


Let me ask you a question.
What is Happiness?
The first thing that pops into your mind is your answer.
For some, happiness is what you feel when what you want to happen happens. For some others, happiness is the smile on their little child’s face. For still others, happiness is a colour, a person, an event, a day, a memory, a gift, a moment, a story, a relationship, a place- anything.
But truly, do you know what it means to be happy and what it takes to achieve happiness?
Analyse the question and you will see that our basic needs are very limited. Our wants are what are unlimited. Think about it. You want a pizza, but you need food. You want a mansion, but you need a house.
The more wants you have the more problems you will have, for an unfulfilled want is the surest cause of unhappiness. Your happiness is your responsibility; don’t blame others if you are unhappy. It certainly is not enough to tell yourself to be happy. As long as we’re not happy with ourselves, we’re never really going to achieve happiness. The problems start when the weather of a dark passing emotion settles into the oppression of a gloomy emotional climate. Before this happens, it is up to each one of us, to use your own initiative, to put up your umbrellas. It is you who decide how you will respond to external circumstances. Achieving happiness is done through looking within ourselves and finding out what truly brings us joy in our lives. We want to be loved and accepted.
Happiness can be achieved by starting with the following:

  • Do not take anything personally. Brush of insults, but be receptive to constructive criticism.
  • Focus on the present, not the past or the future. Tomorrow will take care of itself.
  •  Laugh as often as possible.
  • Learn to accept that power to be happy is all in your hands.
  • Take some time each day to do something nice for yourself.
  • Having balance between our thoughts, words, and actions is crucial in finding happiness.
  • Maintaining your health is very important to achieve happiness.
  • Identify your talents and find opportunities to use them purposefully you will find happiness in what you do.
  • Practice forgiveness.
  • Express and share grief.
  • Make Somebody Else Happy.
  • Think positive.
  • If people would stop being miserable for 15 minutes by shutting their mind off (meditate and most important stop ruminating) then they would be happy.
  • By choosing to take responsibility for your own happiness you choose to succeed throughout your life.

Sunday, 23 June 2013

AFFIRMATIONS


The use of positive affirmations is a technique to change that negative self-talk into something more positive. The goal with affirmations is to change your beliefs. Changing your beliefs will change your life. The problem with negative thoughts is that they can be self-fulfilling. The use of positive affirmations can successfully treat people with low self-esteem, depression, and other mental health conditions. Your positive attitude is the fuel for your success. Many people think that simply repeating a statement over and over again will make it true. This is unlikely. You need to apply positive healing affirmations daily to the root cause of the problem you are working on. 
Think of the positive events in your life that your mind has reminded you of. Contemplate deeply and evaluate all of these events. In doing so, try to focus and find out all the things that make the event “positive”. To do this, introspect with a few questions- What is positive about this event? Why has the positive event transpired? What you have contributed towards the positive event? What have you derived from the positivity?
Once you’re done with that, take your mind down the opposite lane, and consider some negative events in your life. Go through a similar procedure.  Find out why the events were negative. Introspect and ask yourself the following- What is negative about this event? Why has the negative event transpired? Where did the negativity stem from? What have you contributed towards the negative event? What have you derived from the event? What are your feelings about the event?
Once you’ve done this, you will find yourself in a position where you understand most (if not necessarily all) aspects of the problem, event or negativity itself. At this stage, ask yourself if you are willing to accept any part you played in contributing towards negativity. When you are ready to accept your role in the negative event, you are ready to turn the event around, and make it positive. Ask yourself how this could be turned into a positive. For some, it could be a case of learning from experience. For some others, it could be a motivating factor to spur them into action in the productive direction.
This will help change the aspect of the problem from negative to positive. At this stage, you are ready to use your affirmation. Affirmations can either be spoken or be written down. Affirmations have to be done several times a day till such time that they become a reality.
The power of affirmations also lies in their repetition. Affirmations should be formed in the present tense, as if they are already happening. When making positive affirmations, be sure that they’re positive! Here’s an example. If you want to rid yourself of some pain, you should be affirming thus: “I am free of the pain”; “My tryst with the pain is over, I allow myself to release this pain.” “I have now released the pain” as opposed to: “I have no pain.” “I feel no pain”
Another technique that can be used is the mirror technique. Stand in front of a mirror. Look yourself directly in the eyes and say your affirmation loudly. Repeat each affirmation 10 to 15 times to yourself in the mirror. This will help drive it into you sub-conscious mind. Avoid “wanting” your affirmation as it means that you don’t already have it e.g “I want a healthy body” is a wrong affirmation. “I have a perfectly healthy body” would be the right way to affirm.
 Using this powerful technology helps to improve your self- esteem, stay in recovery and improve the quality of your life.

  

Saturday, 22 June 2013

PSYCHOSOMATIC CONDITIONS


Each emotional thought pattern is really an underlying cause of a physical illness, understanding the addressing the cause will help rid the body of the disease. The most frequent causes of illness are negative attitudes and emotions. Those who are vulnerable to falling prey to the suggestion that illness is contagious will attract illness because they expect to be sick as a result of circumstances. Every illness or disorder is actually your body trying to remind you to love yourself.  Our body reflects our emotions. We are made up of energy and if our grid gets injured the energy will be stored in a certain spot thereby hindering the free flow of energy in the meridian.
Illnesses and Their Hidden Meanings:
  • Liver problems are associated with deep anger and chronic fault finding with others or yourself.
  • Lung problems are associated with an inability to take in life or being smothered.
  • Skin problems are associated with being out of touch with ourselves or others or being too sensitive.
  • Heart Diseases are associated with people who tend to over commit and push themselves too hard.
  • Cancer occurs when there are strong feelings of abandonment, betrayal and fear of being alone.
  • Diabetes is caused when there is a chronic feeling of despair and hopelessness.
  • Headaches come from Self-criticism- Not wanting to accept what is going on.
  • Being Overweight happens when there is fear and there is a need for emotional protection.
To rid yourself of your illness note where in the body is the illness or disease is lodged, what function that part of the body has, converse with that body part, find out what you should do to get rid of the issue. Trust your intuition here. Once you clear old issues, it gets easier to clear the newer ones as you are aware of what they are.  Your mental state is a responsible for your good health. You can choose to adjust it in the direction of perfect health, or in the direction of illness, the choice is yours.

Friday, 21 June 2013

NEGATIVE RELATIONSHIPS



“We are what we attract.” Some people attract negative relationships because they send out certain energy that draws them. Every moment you have a choice either to be at peace or to be in resistance. When you are at peace you attract positive energy and when you resist you create negative vibes which reflect back on your being. People are drawn to what is inside of them; they will feel connected to people who give off what they feel. When this occurs, a person will find himself in one negative relationship after the other. The person should realize that what he has been experiencing is a pattern. People never change. It’s you who has to make changes to lead a better quality of life. When you’re transmitting positivity, you are attracting like-minded positive people. If you seem to have suffered the same types of relationship problems over and over again, you need to look within yourself. Relationships are there for our healing and growth, even though they have the potential to bring us joy, they can also bring up parts of our past than can cause us great pain. Let go off the past or your perceptions of it, then your relationships will begin to change and relationships that honour that we truly are will start to appear.
 “Judge nothing, you will be happy. Forgive everything, you will be happier. Love everything, you will be happiest.” ~Sri Chinmoy.
 Remember, positive attracts positive. Forgiveness is so ultimately important to the law of attraction. Relationships with others start with the type of relationship you have with yourself. Forgive yourself and others. Learn to love yourself only then will you start loving others and love will also flow into your life. Never hold onto your past, release it for somewhere it is your past which is responsible for your present state of being. All of the parts of ourselves that cause us pain and we have repressed, start to show up in other people. Self love and Self respect are the keys in having healthy relationships and the keys to attracting quality people into our lives. Your relationship destiny depends on your own energy, so make it positive and see how your relationships soar.

Thursday, 20 June 2013

MEDITATION



 With the hectic pace of modern life, many people feel stressed and over-worked. Accumulated stress is the cause of illness. By eliminating stress, you allow your mind to calm down thereby allowing the body to function with maximum effectiveness. Meditation is the best tool to overcome stress. Meditation is a self healing process. Deeper the meditation, the deeper would be the healing. Meditation helps an individual overcome negative emotions to facilitate a calm peaceful mind and a healthy and stress free body. If we don’t attend to the disease of the mind we may find that stress can lead to disease of the body. You can practice meditation wherever you are — whether you’re out for a walk, riding the bus, or even in the middle of a difficult business meeting. Meditation techniques involve a process of transforming yourself, your thoughts, and recognizing the negative thoughts, and changing them into positive ones.
 The different types of meditation are:
  • Guided meditation. In this method you form mental images of places or situations you find relaxing. Try to use as many senses as possible, such as smells, sights, sounds and textures. You may be led through this process by a guide.
  • Mantra meditation. In this type of meditation, you silently repeat a calming word as a chant, to prevent distracting thoughts.
  • Mindfulness meditation is about focusing on what is happening around you and being aware of your thoughts and feelings during the process of meditating. Be open to your true feelings but don’t judge your thoughts. You can start by watching your breath and then move your attention to the thoughts in your mind and even the sounds and sights surrounding you. The bottom line is not to analyse or judge anything.
  • Transcendental meditation. You use a mantra, such as a word, sound or phrase repeatedly silently, to eliminate all thoughts from your mind. You focus only on your mantra to achieve a state of perfect stillness.
  • Yoga. You perform a series of postures with controlled breathing exercises to promote a flexible body and a calm mind. As you move through poses that require a lot of concentration, you focus less on your problems and more on the moment.
  • Walking Meditation.  Walking Meditation, as the name tells, involves walking. You just have to focus on your feet while walking.
Benefits of Meditation: Meditation Lowers blood pressure, improves the immune system, increases body vitality, controls insomnia and improves the overall health of the body. It contributes towards emotional stability, reduced anger, developed intuition, peace of mind, induces ability to focus, and reduces stress. Most importantly meditation brings about harmony and realization of self.