Sunday, 21 July 2013

Love is worth fighting for


 
“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”  Maria Robinson

Loyalty and commitment teach us that we are not to walk away from people we love. Love and relationships require a lot of work. Of all the things that can be stolen from you be it your possessions, your health, your rights the one thing that no one can ever take from you is your freedom who and what you will love. If you truly loved someone, then you would be able to realize that it’s ok if they don’t love you back. Life is too short to spend time with people who take the happiness out of you. If you love someone, tell them, hearts are often broken by words left unspoken. Never force someone to make a space in their life for you, because if they know your worth, they will create one for you. Do not chase people. The right people who belong in your life will come to you, and stay.. When you put giving and receiving love on top of your priority list, you will raise the quality of your life. When people walk away from you let them go remember that your destiny is never tied to anyone who leaves you and no way does it mean that they are bad people, it only means that their part in your life is over.

Friday, 19 July 2013

ATTACHMENT


From our early life, we develop an attachment to our primary caregivers which remains all through our lives. This bonding determines how we relate to other people because it created the foundation for all communications in our relationships.  The 3 different attachment types are:

ANXIOUS: Wants a lot of closeness, worries about rejection, unhappy when not in a relationship, plays games to hold onto your attention, difficulty explaining what’s bothering him and expects you to guess, he is suspicious that you are being unfaithful.
AVOIDANT: Sends mixed signals in the relationship, values his independence greatly, is mistrustful and fears being taken advantage of, he doesn’t make his intentions clear and has difficulty talking about what’s going on between you.
SECURE: Reliable and consistent, makes decisions with you, flexible, communicates well, can compromise during arguments, is not afraid of commitment.

Unconditional love is not the only manifestation of beneficial love but, it is the most powerful. A secure relationship influences the quality of future relationships with other people. Insecurity can be a huge problem in our lives, and it takes shape when an infant’s attachment bond fails to provide the child with sufficient understanding, safety, and mutual accord. Attachment always comes with fear-fear of losing other person, or the acceptance of other person, fear of decrement of feeling in other person for us. Anxious adults have a deep desire for closeness and dependence.

Wednesday, 17 July 2013

SELF ESTEEM

“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself”. Thich Nhat Hanh
The term self-image is used to refer to a person’s mental picture of himself or herself. Self-concept consists of the beliefs one has about oneself. It is similar to self-worth. What we feel about ourselves is not based on what we do alone it is based on our relationships with others and whether we feel worthwhile as people, it is all about how much we feel valued, loved, accepted, and thought well of by other people and how much we value, love, and accept ourselves. Low self-esteem is a negative evaluation of oneself. It could because of abuse, neglect or co-dependency. Those who constantly compare themselves to others, or are highly competitive, may always experience low self esteem. Some people who have suffered loss of any form, divorce, may have self-esteem issues. Low self-esteem can negatively affect virtually every facet of your life. Raising your self esteem is possible, but not easy. If you have high self-esteem, you will generally see yourself in a positive light. If you have low self-esteem it will have an effect on your mental health. It lowers ability to cope with the stresses of life which could place you at a risk of developing mental issues such as eating disorders, depression which are related to your mood and self-belief. To increase your self esteem replace negative thoughts with positive, constructive thoughts, when you hear negative comments in your head, tell yourself to stop, be assertive does not mean you need to be aggressive, stop comparing yourself to other people, acknowledge your positive qualities, act the person you want to be and communicate with others assertively.
“When people believe in themselves they have the first secret of success”. Norman Vincent Peale

Tuesday, 16 July 2013

Don't blame yourself.

It is very important to know how your childhood affects the way you live now, because what you learnt from your family and friends back then, is how you tackle your life now. Most of our emotional pain comes from experiences that happened during our childhood. If you’ve had any experiences as a child where you had to keep your truth quiet, it’s time to let it go,  whereby you will release energy, shame, and subconscious blocks that may be holding you back from living your life to the fullest. Although the subconscious mind grows with our new life experiences its basic nature remains the same way like how our parents moulded it. While you can’t change your past, you can change the way you understand it and move forward in light of that understanding. We reap the traits that our parents sowed as they raised us. They only did what they knew and what they learnt from their parents. Forgive them wholeheartedly for they did only what they knew. Be grateful for what you learnt from them-the good to keep with you and the bad to discard. It is difficult to let go of the negatives, try writing them down and tearing up the paper after you are done with it

“Your children are the greatest gift God will give to you and their souls the heaviest responsibility He will place in your hands. Take time with them; teach them to have faith in God. Be a person in whom they can have faith. When you are old, nothing else you’ve done will have mattered as much.”― Lisa Wingate

Monday, 15 July 2013

EMOTIONAL HUNGER

We don’t always eat to satisfy hunger alone; we also eat to comfort ourselves, for stress relief, or simply to reward ourselves. Emotional hunger is a strong emotional need caused by deprivation in childhood. People may eat for many reasons that have nothing to do with genuine physical hunger. Emotional hunger comes on suddenly; physical hunger occurs gradually. Emotional hunger helps soothe your feelings, help mask negative feelings boredom at least temporarily. But remember Emotional hunger can’t be filled with food though you may feel momentarily satiated.

Some signs of emotional eating are eating when not physically hungry, eating when bored, eating rapidly, eating more than required, crave particular food, eating during times of strong emotions, feel guilty after eating. You can recognize emotional hunger by looking out for these symptoms -emotional hunger is sudden in onset; you are not hungry one minute and the next minute you are starving, emotional hunger does not begin in the stomach, it begins in your mind and mouth, it will make you feel guilty, you normally experience emotional hunger after some negative or unpleasant emotion.

You may overcome emotional eating by learning to accept your feelings even the bad ones. Physical activity does wonders for your emotional well being, and it’s a powerful stress buster. Spend time with positive people which will help relieve  the negative effects of stress. Don’t swallow your emotions for the sake of sparing others from getting upset. If they’ve upset you, express it, don’t bottle it. Give the craving time to pass. Get support. Workout when you’re bored. Ask yourself these questions “What is eating me? What am I hungry for? How can I comfort myself without food?” and try using EFT to eliminate issues.

HIGHER SELF



Your Higher Self is your full potential, it is everything that you are and everything that you are capable of being. Your Higher Self operates at a higher level of understanding than you do,  it is you, your consciousness, in your body. Sometimes you can be alienated from your Higher Self when you see yourself as an inferior being or when there are other beliefs that block you from the truth of who you are. It is not separate from you, it is very much a part of you. In fact it is yourself at the purest level. You can talk to your Higher Self and ask it for direction on your life path, for suggestions and understanding and for what your life purpose is. Your higher self is your ultimate guide.
“Your most important work – that which is the very basis of your accomplishment, achievement and satisfaction from this life experience – is your finding your true sense of self. Once you accept the existence of your Inner Being (i.e., your Higher Self), you may recognize the tremendous reservoir of knowledge and clarity and strength that exists right now within you.” – Abraham-Hicks
To give you a better picture, visualize energy above your head about four feet which is always with you. It is with you when you come into this world and it will be with you when you leave this world. Try listening  to your higher self.  Sometimes it sounds like intuition or sometimes it sounds like a voice of someone warning you.

Saturday, 13 July 2013

Why forgive?


To forgive another person from the heart is an act of liberation. We set that person free from the negative bonds that exist between us. We say, “I no longer hold your offense against you” But there is more. We also free ourselves from the burden of being the “offended one.” As long as we do not forgive those who have wounded us, we carry them with us or, worse, pull them as a heavy load. The great temptation is to cling in anger to our enemies and then define ourselves as being offended and wounded by them. Forgiveness, therefore, liberates not only the other but also ourselves.
Forgiving does not mean forgetting. When we forgive a person, the memory of the wound might stay with us for a long time, even throughout our lives. Sometimes we carry the memory in our bodies as a visible sign. But forgiveness changes the way we remember. It converts the curse into a blessing. When we forgive our parents for their divorce, our children for their lack of attention, our friends for their unfaithfulness in crisis, our doctors for their ill advice, we no longer have to experience ourselves as the victims of events we had no control over.
Forgiveness allows us to claim our own power and not let these events destroy us; it enables them to become events that deepen the wisdom of our hearts. Forgiveness indeed heals memories.
Henri Nouwen

Friday, 12 July 2013

Muscles and Emotions

MUSCLES AND EMOTIONS

There is a relationship between muscles and motions. When an emotion is not expressed properly, it will lodge itself in specific areas which will then lead to muscle soreness.

“We often block trauma with the mind but hold emotions in the body,” Karol Ward.
Emotions tone and program muscles and other connective tissues, they continue doing so for as long as an emotion is present in our system. This most naturally will affect your posture.
Anger moves up the back of the body along the spine, over the top of the head, and out through the eyes and mouth, down the arms and goes through the hands. Note that when you are you instinctively tighten your fist. If you observe yourself closely, the next time you are angry, you will note tightening of your jaw.  Blocking the release of sadness can lead to very tight throat muscles and a chronic, painful ache in the throat. All our negative emotions cause a shortening or increased contraction of our flexor muscles. We try to protect ourselves from having deep uncomfortable feelings by tightening muscles. Layers of tension develop. Blood does not flow well into a contracted muscle.  Healing cannot occur in a state of panic, fear, or anger.  Reduce your level of muscle tension with relaxation techniques such as meditation, yoga, or progressive muscle relaxation. Remember that stress is additive.

The release of these connective tissue restrictions brings about a relief from pain and negative emotions.  This is one of the reasons yoga and tai-chi can be so therapeutic. Be honest about your feelings. Clearing blocked emotions can profoundly impact your physical and emotional health.

HOLDING ONTO BAGGAGE



“Don’t let yesterday use up too much of today.” — Cherokee Indian Proverb
Letting go of “stuff” can be a difficult and challenging obstacle for all of us. Most of us carry around some mental and emotional baggage which might include views and beliefs about others, ourselves that we would do better to let go of.
“All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.” ~Havelock Ellis

Life has its ups and downs however, that does not mean that we have to hold on to it. Many people hold onto to this baggage often without much conscious realization and then wonder why they are so tired, stressed and depressed. Metaphysical baggage needs to be checked. At some point that baggage becomes so unbearably heavy that we just stop moving forward and start living in the past. Taking the risk to let go of the past and truly live in the present moment is the way to true happiness. Learn from your mistakes then wash your hands of it. Focus on positive events and make sure that your brain remembers them as vividly as it does negative ones. Lightening the emotional load you carry with you will allow you to step into a life you are in love with.

Wednesday, 10 July 2013


ALTERNATE THERAPIES TO CONTROL OVEREATING
Dr. Edward Bach was a British physician practicing medicine in London around the turn of the 19th century. He began practicing homeopathy along with his traditional medical practice. His keen desire to cure disease by healing the root cause of illness rather than just treat the symptoms of disease led him to discover the flower essences in 1930.
Bach believed that the causes of all illness lay in the emotional makeup of the person. Remedies were matched emotional symptoms. Remedies that can control overeating are Chestnutbud, Crab Apple, Cherry Plum, Gentian if the individual is depressed and eats to relieve the depression and Gorse if he feels hopeless. In addition to this,  the base cause has to be addressed.
Gem stone that helps control overeating are: Clear Topaz Improves sluggish metabolism  also helps your body detoxify, Citrine Helps you lose weight by improving digestion and supporting elimination of what you no longer need, both physically and emotionally, Poppy Jasper Supports healthy activity levels ,enlivens and energizes your body and Apatite Helps in resolving emotional issues related to food, so that you can gain control over cravings and emotional eating.
Yoga for weight loss: Yoga is a combination of a set of physical and breathing exercises coupled with meditation. Each set of exercises are meant to address certain problems in the body. The body gains weight when the metabolic rate is unable to use the calorie intake and hence the excess is turned into fat deposits in the body. The excess calories expended by exercises or eliminated altogether through dieting. Yoga can increase the rate of metabolism so the body burns more calories than it normally does. As it works on organs, they work at their optimal level, facilitating weight loss.
Pranayama that can be performed to facilitate weight loss are  Bhastrika Pranayama,  Kapalabhati Pranayama, Agnisar Kriya and Ujjayi Pranayama. Some of  the asanas for weight loss are Chakra padasan , Paschimottanasan , Trikonasan , Dhanurasan , Ardha Halasan , Sarvangasan, Halasan.
Accupressure points to control overeating are 










Tuesday, 9 July 2013

EATING AND EMOTIONS


One theory of obesity hypothesizes that overweight people do not distinguish physiological signals of hunger or satiety because of faulty learning. Emotional eating often leads to eating too much, especially too much of high-calorie, sweet, fatty foods. The relationship between food and emotions may be imbalanced in individuals with eating disorders, obesity, or depression. It is generally accepted that how we feel can influence what we choose to eat or drink. Also what we eat can affect our mental functioning. Keep a food diary every day.
It is a combination of eating too much of some foods and not enough of others that is contributing to symptoms such as depression. When under stress, our body increases its production of a number of hormones. While the brain “instructs” the body to produce and release certain chemicals to deal with stress, there are also physiological factors responsible for change in emotions. Some people respond to stress by selecting food for its chemical effects while others choose foods to meet emotional needs. Emotional eaters eat foods that are high in fat, starch, sugar, and salt. An emotional eater will use food to block out certain emotions or to fill a void in their life.
Exercise is a great way to help counteract negative emotions because it releases endorphins to help improve the mood. Eat regularly and eat a healthy, balanced diet. Get adequate rest. Yoga also emphasizes mindful eating. They learn to rely on their wisdom and intuition to make decisions about eating healthy and other life decisions. Stress management should be a part of interventions designed to curb the consumption of calorie laden foods. Pure foods, which consist of fresh fruits and vegetables, are said to bring calmness and tranquillity to the mind. Stimulating foods like spices, onions, etc., are said to restless, unsatisfied state of mind and thereby to nervous disorders and emotional outbreaks. Bach Flower Therapy can be used as a self-help tool by anyone to help soothe daily irritability, moodiness and stress of all kinds. Quartz crystals have excellent healing properties. Quartz also has the ability to transform an imbalanced energy field. When you feel stressed, angry or whatever the crystal can balance your energies and revitalize you.
Meditation to deal with negative emotions:
  • Inhale deeply. Simultaneously visualize imbibing whatever positive energies you desire coming to you. Focus on one attribute at a time. Fill your lungs completely.
  • Hold your breath for a few seconds, and as you do so feel these energies filling you completely, every part of your body.
  • Exhale let the duration of your exhalation be longer than that of your inhalation. Feel yourself expelling all your negative energies
In order to stop the unhealthy pattern of binge eating, it is important to start eating for health and nutrition.

YOUR THOUGHTS AND YOUR BODY


Your body reflects your thoughts. Recognize your emotions and understand why you are having them. Find ways to let go of sadness, stress and anxiety in your life can help you manage your emotional health. Everything begins with your consciousness.  Everything that happens in your life, and everything that happens in your body, begins with something happening in your consciousness.    

Ventilate your feelings for if you bottle them , they get lodged in your body causing. At these times, ask someone outside the situation –for advice and support to help you improve your emotional health.


Live a balanced life. Try not to obsess about the problems that lead to negative feelings. Having a positive outlook can improve your quality of living. Cultivate a hobby, it takes your mind off a number of things. Let go of some things in your life that make you feel stressed and overwhelmed. Make time for things you enjoy and spend more time out enjoying nature, or in the company of children. Have a positive outlook. People with resilience are able to cope with stress in a healthy way..


Relaxation methods, such as meditation, are useful ways to bring your emotions into balance.  Nourish your body by having a regular routine for eating healthy meals, getting enough sleep and exercising to relieve pent-up tension. Avoid overeating and don’t abuse drugs or alcohol. 

Sunday, 7 July 2013

Forgiveness and letting go


Forgiveness is very complex and there is not one of us who does not have someone to forgive .If we have gone through a bitter experience with another, it practically will be next to impossible to forget the incident even though you may have forgiven the person. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting the incident but remembering it sans the bitterness. Once you have forgiven, the emotion attached to that incident is released and thereby you rid yourself of illness which that particular emotion may have caused, since all illness is caused by your thought and emotions. Cry when you are sad-even if you don’t have a shoulder to cry on. Connect to the pain you feel when crying and expend the pent up sorrow inside you. Punch a pillow if you are angry- yell, shout, and shriek alongside the punching. Go through whatever it is that made you angry as you punch. A good workout is a stress buster so is writing. take some paper and just keep writing , don’t reason just write whatever comes to your mind, they can be unrelated could be something from the past or something to do with your future but just keep going till you have nothing more to pen. Tear up the paper/papers burn them up and flush down the ashes. Another technique is to light a candle in the southwest end of your room, keep a bowl of rock salt next to it , sit before the candle and say all that you have to till you run out of anything to say. Flush the rock salt taking care not to spill any. Art is a wonderful channel to let go of negative emotions. Be it drawing painting, playing an instrument or even listening to music –but make sure that you don’t listen to music that further deepens the negative emotion you are going through.

Friday, 5 July 2013

Letting go of negative energy



Energy is exchanged in conversation and in events, and in every interaction between people. There is bound to be contamination in terms of energy. Most of the time, you may find yourself unsure of how to let go of negative energies. The energy, left to itself, will dissipate on its own but sometimes it takes us long after the moment the incident happened to let go of our hold over the same.The first rule is, that you should Never try to push the emotion away. Don’t judge your emotion. It is just there. There are no bad emotions, just emotions. All of us have them, and they are just as valid as the happy emotions. Don’t cling to your emotions and make sure that you avoid going over the incident over and over again. By reworking the incident in your mind, you are invariably giving the situation more power and thus in the process, you will find it difficult to get over it.
The second thing is to remember that the thoughts that you send out come back to you. Our mind receives back the information we send out through our perception system. A mind that sees and feels itself constantly under attack will place physical demands on its body. The body will be constantly working to keep itself “safe”. By sending out feelings of love, peace and tranquillity will be yours.

Thirdly, simply brush it off as an incident that happened to you, no matter what it may be, no matter how big a deal it may be. Simply shrug it off by shrugging your shoulders with the incident in mind. The energy of resentment often sits in our shoulders, and by exercising the movement of shrugging your shoulders up and down several times, you’re helping that energy move. And when it moves, it can be removed. Inhaling deeply while focussing on the issue and exhaling fully through the mouth also helps remove this negativity in you.
 
Fourth, and most importantly, forgive. Forgiveness actually is a releasing process that involves letting go of negative feelings and resentments you’re holding towards other people. When you forgive others, you are actually helping yourself more than them. If you are able to let go of holding on to the negative thoughts and feelings you have about others, you become much lighter and freer with a lot more energy. Bathing in water in which sea salt has been dissolved can also transmute negative energy. There are many techniques like Reiki, Pranic healing, Crystal healing, Colour therapy and plenty more which will help you cleanse yourself off negative energy.

LETTING GO WITH CRYSTALS To prepare your crystal (clear quartz can be used or rose quartz) for healing, cleanse the crystal of any negativity. Soak it in sea salt so that negative energies are removed from the crystal so that you do not transfer residual energies onto yourself or your client. Instruct your crystal to direct the energy towards letting go of whatever you desire. A simple method is writing a thought on a piece of paper then placing a crystal on top to absorb the thought energy. The crystal acts as instructed. You can place the crystal on a person’s photograph to send them an amplified thought or heal them of a problem or to simply let go of their emotions (anger, hatred etc). You can also program your crystal by holding it in your hand then breathing in through your nose, hold the thought in your mind of what you want, then forcefully breathe out into the crystal through your nose. Do this on each side of the crystal to program it. (There are 6 sides to a clear quartz crystal).

Thursday, 4 July 2013

Heal your emotions to Heal your Mind



Healing emotions and mental healing are interlinked. Your thoughts lead to your emotions and vice versa. Healing one brings about healing to the other.
When addressing a health issue, a holistic therapist will explore your mental wellness and emotional health in addition to symptoms of your illness.
The mind, body and spirit are connected to each other. Positive beliefs and emotions can literally create a healing response without any real medical intervention. Negative emotion causes illness.
Anger, fear, unworthiness and other emotions get ‘stuffed’ into the body, over time these limiting emotions weaken the physical body creating stiffness, aches, pain and general discomfort, which eventually can cause more serious conditions . Writing with your less dominant hand helps clearing our repressed emotions. Ask questions by writing a question with your dominant hand and answering the question by writing with your less dominant hand. This can work really well for inner child healing as well where the less dominant hand can be your child.
What you see in others that angers you is a part of yourself that has not yet been healed and loved. Emotional patterns begin in the first place when we are judgmental of others. This time experience the energy of anger or hatred, don’t judge it just experience it. Allow anger or hatred to run into every nook and corner of your body, now enjoy it. Love the feeling that anger or hatred produces. Now begin a conversation with your negative emotion. This helps us locate the core issue underneath the emotion. Strike up a conversation with the emotion. Ask it questions like, “What are you teaching me?” or “Why are you here?” With these answers you are able to make change and you will find yourself peaceful mentally, physically and emotionally.

THE POWER OF LOVE


Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction. ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

The Human relationship is of great importance for your happiness, health and longevity. Physical affection can help the brain, the heart and other body systems. At the centre of how our bodies respond to love and affection is a hormone called oxytocin. Oxytocin lowers the levels of stress hormones in the body, regulates blood pressure, increases tolerance for pain and even helps wounds heal.  It plays an important role in our relationships.  Oxytocin is made in the area of the brain called the hypothalamus
Most people in today’s society become so busy that they don’t take the time to appreciate the gratitude and receive the love from relationships. People, today are so busy that they don’t have time or space for people that matter. They prefer possessions to humans. Loving, and feeling loved, improves our body’s natural disease fighting competence. There is enough proof that joyful relationships seem to produce just the right kind of chemicals and hormones that are needed to keep diseases at bay and also helps fight diseases such as cancer and heart disease. Several studies have proved that happily married individuals live longer than those who are single. You are probably thinking that love is beneficial only to those in an intimate primary relationship. Not true. To reap the benefits of love, you need not have a lover or spouse. The love you feel can be for a friend, a parent, a child, or a sibling. When you love someone and have yet to have them these emotions can be overbearing. Even your very cells react to love. You feel strong, proud and above all have a zest for life.
When you feel sad your cells run away from each other and move very fast. It is as if they don’t like each other. Hence you feel sad and worthless. Love and acceptance can be powerful medications. Our bodies respond to different thoughts and emotions.
MEDITATION:
·         Sit down with your back erect, eyes closed.
·         Do a few rounds of deep breathing, relaxing your body, starting from your toes working up to your head.
·         Be in this relaxed state for a few minutes.
·         Bring your focus on your heart chakra, inhale all the negativities from the chakra, and exhale it out. Continue till you feel that the chakra is cleansed.
·         Now visualise this chakra spinning in a clockwise manner, pink in colour. Note if there are any areas of tension or stress in your body, gently send love and pink energy from your heart chakra to these areas till you are sure that you are free from these negativities.
·         Now visualise the whole body suffused with this pink love energy.
·         Affirm I am love. Be in this state for some time, return the pink light back to the chakra.

·         Relax in this state for some time.

Tuesday, 2 July 2013

EMOTIONS AND THE BODY



There is rarely a moment in our day when we are not feeling an emotion. All of us have suppressed our emotions at one time or another. But your emotions need an outlet. They will come out one way or another, because they are part of who you are. Negative emotions, will remain inside your body-mind-soul and if not dealt with cause diseases. Anger gets stored in your liver, gall bladder and can show up in the eye also. Guilt, grief, shame, regret can get stored large intestine, lungs and is associated with the nose also. Fear, anxiety go to the kidneys, bladder and has connection with the eyes and ears. Absence of happiness, fun and frolic, affects the circulation, thyroid, sex and is connected to tongue. Excesses affect small intestine, heart and has connection to the tongue. 
 
Constant thinking, worrying affects stomach, spleen, pancreas and has connection to the mouth.
Emotions released in a negative way can be painful. When emotions are not expressed, they can be redirected into positive expression through work, play or they can be lodged within the body, blocking the flow of energy and resulting in emotional or physical pain. Unconditional love (of self and others) and happiness serve as master keys contain illness. Forgiveness sets you and the others involved free of our past perceptions. Meditation, yoga, tai-chi, acupuncture, Reiki are all aimed at releasing negativities  allowing positive energy to flow freely.

Monday, 1 July 2013

Letting go with Yoga



Letting go means letting be, not throwing things away. Letting go implies letting things come and go, and opening to the wisdom of simply allowing, which is called nonattachment. If you practice yoga you will nurture equilibrium between body and mind. From yoga develops growth and insight. Yoga instructors encourage students to stay in the present moment and let go of judgment so they can learn to truly listen to the body and inner self. 
Breathing exercises calm the nervous system, help achieve higher states of meditation and oxygenate muscles as they move through yoga pose.When your breathing reacts to an emotion your body also reacts. When preparing for a crux move and you need to let go of negative thoughts take a deep breath and exhale strongly.
A teacher can guide us to look with in, but ultimately have to have the courage to actually go inward. No teacher can do this for us. In most cases going within ourselves is not a very pleasant thing to do. 
Asanas in the traditional sense are for quieting the nervous system. They are designed to facilitate the flow of prana in the body. Asanas are an excellent preparation for pranayama. A large part of the original reason people practiced yoga asana was to prepare the body for sitting still for many hours in silent meditation. They help decrease tension in the muscles and bones so that we can meditate better. Our thoughts ultimately create our emotions which in turn validate our thoughts so we think more of them. None of this has anything to do with what’s actually happening, we need to get some space from ourselves. 
Meditation is about letting go of control. It is a powerful method of stopping all thought activity and drawing your attention above the body – you will be completely relaxed. Meditation isn’t something you actually do or accomplish; it’s the state of non-doing.